Everywhere you turn this week, images of hearts abound. Amazon.com, Macy's, Victoria's Secret, as is to be expected, and for the daring, the patron saint of lacy lasciviousness himself, Sir Frederick of Frederick's of Hollywood (not for the faint of heart) are pumping up the volume on their Valentine's Day sin offerings.
When did private romance become such a public spectacle?
Is peddling wholesale love now the norm? Are couples um, buying into the commercialization of their special day? More importantly, what is the unmarried unattached woman to do?
Take heart dear single sistahs. There's much you can do to enhance your experience; not just on Valentine's Day but every day. On February 14, you may be alone but you're still alive. There's no need to feel left out. Don't you dare get depressed. How you deal with your single status is entirely in your hands. It's all about your attitude.
THE VALENTINE'S DAY "BE ATTITUDES"
Be Voluminous: with your vocabulary, your hair, your personality
Be Aligned: with your goals, your intentions, your beliefs
Be Loving: toward yourself
Be Enterprising: begin a project or hobby that challenges your limits
Be Nurturing: to those around you; sow seeds of kindness, reap a harvest in kind
Be Tantalizing: add a little spice to your life; unleash your inner goddess
Be Inspired: by stories of overcomers
Be Nature-aware: enjoy the bounty of each season
Be Enlightened: be open to the tenets of another faith while holding fast to your own
Be Sexy: pull out the naughty lingerie and fishnet stockings; wear them just for the hell of it; for yourself
Be Dance-a-licious: as Maxine our favorite email grandma orders, "dance like no one's watching"
Be Adventurous: try something different; a new language, a new cuisine or a new sport
"To thine own self be true . . . thou canst not then be false to any man."
Happy Valentine's Day!
Jennifer Lavern is a keen observer of the issues that affect how women view themselves and how they interact with their world.