The Huffington Post recently issued a challenge to its readers.
"With the benefit of hindsight," they assert "there are many things post 50s would tell their younger selves." They then invite their matured fans to share their thoughts now that they have experienced life with all its twists and undulations.
The challenge? Dole out the time-honored wisdom in three words.
Without hesitation, my three little words came barreling past my deficiencies. YOU ARE ENOUGH!
I have had the privilege of speaking with a number of women from varying walks of life in recent months. Many, successful businesswomen, are in a period of transition. In spite of their accomplishments some have allowed their shortcomings to maintain a stranglehold on them.
Concerns about grown children, financial setbacks, unresolved emotions from long past divorces and unrealized dreams are lassoing their otherwise promising futures. Through our conversations one common theme has emerged: worthiness, or rather, the lack thereof.
These women have shortchanged themselves because they subconsciously remain stuck in the narrative of their past. In contrast to their outward appearance, their confidence has taken a hit. They continually second guess themselves, measuring their self-worth by some imaginary yardstick, the selfsame mirage that their comrades-in-arms are convinced that they are being judged by. Yet, because of who they are, I see in these, my peers, a strength that belies our very nature. Who we are is so much bigger than what we do. No matter the challenge, I believe we are up for the task.
What we lack in skill, we can learn. What we lack in experience, we can acquire. Where we lack in time, we can delegate. It's not about resources, but about resourcefulness. We are able now, as we always were, and always will be enough. Because who we are is greater than what we do.
So, to my fellow W.I.Ts (Women In Transition), let us remind our current selves that with everything we've been through, every mountain we've climbed, every valley we've forged, we made it because we were enough. For every challenge that lies ahead, we are enough. To our younger selves, we can assure you to go forth with confidence because we know who you are and what you are becoming. Who you are is greater than anything you will ever do. And for that, you are enough.
Jennifer Lavern is a keen observer of the issues that affect how women view themselves and how they interact with their world.